The marriages of my parents and grandparents are both very traditional. While I do respect and appreciate their love that they have for each other, i tend to take a more modern perspective on marriage. I do not see marriage as being submissive to my husband and acting as a typical housewife that was seen in earlier generations. Marriage is about having respect and equality with the person that I will choose to spend the rest of my life with. As well as the aspect of equality, my grandparents marriage is very serious and focused on their children. I want to marry someone who I am deeply in love with who shares the same interests and ideas as me. I want to be able to have serious conversations about important topics and voice my opinions freely. At the same time, I also want to be able to sit back and joke around with my husband without feeling any restraint. Marriage is not only about the partnership, but also about the friendship, care, and love one must show for their spouse.
In ancient cultures, marriage was often arranged and never true. In the present, women and men have the opportunity to explore dating and try out what they like and dislike before committing to a marriage. Old stories were often told regarding a man and a woman who were matched together out of convenience for the two families or a matter of money. The husband and wife never actually loved each other but were forced to stay together because of the wishes of their families. Another story often heard about marriages of the past is simply about procreation. People used to marry only for the purpose of having as many children as possible in order to keep the family name going for as long as possible. They never had sex to show love for each other but just to have children. Marriage today is about both of those aspects of sex. The Catholic Church has changed its definition on marriage to be more about just procreation. Now it is about a deep love and understanding for the person that you choose to spend the rest of your life with.
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